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"Thank You" Backfires When Used in This Way

2019-11-15

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Gratitude is a hot topic in popular psychology – but is it always a good thing? In this episode we explore "insincere gratitude" where your thanks could be doing more harm than good.

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Leong, J. L. T., Chen, S. X., Fung, H. H. L., Bond, M. H., Siu, N. Y. F., & Zhu, J. Y. (2019). Is Gratitude Always Beneficial to Interpersonal Relationships? The Interplay of Grateful Disposition, Grateful Mood, and Grateful Expression Among Married Couples. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. https://doi.org/10.1177/0146167219842868

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Grant, A. M., & Gino, F. (2010). A little thanks goes a long way: Explaining why gratitude expressions motivate prosocial behavior. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 98(6), 946-955. http://dx.doi.org/10.1037/a0017935

Sara B. Algoe & Ruixue Zhaoyang (2016) Positive psychology in context: Effects of expressing gratitude in ongoing relationships depend on perceptions of enactor responsiveness, The Journal of Positive Psychology, 11:4, 399-415,DOI: 10.1080/17439760.2015.1117131

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Intro
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The benefits of expressing gratitude
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Is it enough
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Tips
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